Love and marriage

It's been a weird past few days. You know how they say "when it rains, it pours"? Well, my life has been pouring...all of my exes and past relationships. Seems that the universe is trying to send me a message and I'm not quite sure what it means.


Things have been quiet with my love life. Too quiet. But I've put it down to taking time for myself and focusing on me and what I want. Being surrounded by wedding bliss hasn't made this easy but it's given me a lot of time to reflect.

One of the questions I ask after every break up is "what did I do wrong?" I think, as a girlfriend, I'm a hell of a catch. I keep joking with my friends "why am I still single?!" but it's more a case of never a truer word was spoken than in jest.

But this week has me asking another question. What is it with guys and temptation? The past week has seen two guys (one an ex, the other a complete stranger) flirting with me whilst wearing a wedding ring. The stranger I can write off as a complete douche, but the ex...he knows that I know he is married. In fact, he's married to the girl he started dating after we broke up.

The problem I have with this is that this isn't the first time this issue has come up. I keep finding myself in the situation where a guy is clearly crossing a line and I can't figure out if it's some vibe I'm giving off or what. I've had numerous friends hit on me, even ones whose girlfriends I considered friends, so really, what is it? Do I have "homewrecker" stamped on my forehead or something?

I've never cheated. And as far as I know, I've never been cheated on. When I'm with someone, the rest of the world pretty much falls away and I know I've really committed to someone when all my other interests (read: little crushes) fall away too. Of course, I think that there is nothing wrong with being in a relationship and feeling an attraction to someone, but I can usually identify it for what it is: just a passing attraction. I quite literally step outside of my body and think: "hey, if I was single, I'd probably be into him". And then I skip happily away to hold the hand of the person I've committed to.

Maybe it's just me but I kind of agree with a quote I found recently from Johnny Depp (beauty and brains, there's someone I will never deny an attraction to):

“If you love two people at the same time, choose the second. Because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn't have fallen for the second.”

But, like I said, maybe it's just me.